Bloggity Blog Blog Blog…

January 17, 2012

“Yeah. ‘Cause existing is such a curse.” – Everett Piper

Filed under: Uncategorized — thirdxlucky @ 1:03 am

It’s important to remind myself that my loneliness is an inextricable element of my experience of being human. It’s not the result of something I’m doing or something I’m failing to do. It’s not a comment on my worth as a person or on the strength of my intimate relationships or on my community as a whole. Feeling lonely is as much a part of my fundamental make-up as the color of my freckles or the sound of my voice. There are things I can do to manage it, but there’s nothing I can do to make it go away completely. There will be times when I feel acutely lonely, no matter what, for the rest of my life. Sometimes, loneliness is what it feels like to be alive.

That sounds depressing but it’s actually one of the most comforting realizations I ever had.



  1. […] So, I mulled it over all day, writing little bits and pieces in my head. It involved some cute analogies in which I described various Scenes as trying to pick me up, and whether the lines they used were the kind that I find annoying (“Ooh, baby. I’m gonna make you dangerous!”) or the kinds that I’m a total sucker for (“Psst. C’mere. I can make you free.”) I talked about how all scenes are poisonous, even the ones rooted in something liberatory and how, although I have sometimes described “community building” as my reason for existing, I hate how people throw around the word “community” for much the same reason that maymay wants to break the word friend. Because, ultimately, I’m not interested in “building communities” in the abstract; I’m interested in one community. Mine. I want to find a way to live that doesn’t feel so lonely. […]

    Pingback by Ache. « Bloggity Blog Blog Blog… — February 4, 2012 @ 5:39 pm | Reply

  2. […] night. The empty, grasping, desperate, needy, lonely-down-in-my-bones night. You know. That […]

    Pingback by Remedies For Hollowness « Bloggity Blog Blog Blog… — March 22, 2012 @ 11:49 pm | Reply

  3. […] About This 04.22.2012 – Remedies for Hollowness 02.04.2012 – Ache. 01.17.2012 – “Yeah. ‘Cause existing is such a curse,” – Everett Piper 04.14.2010 – Folks What Loves […]

    Pingback by Operating Manual: How to Help Me When I’m Upset « Bloggity Blog Blog Blog… — May 16, 2012 @ 11:27 pm | Reply

  4. […] of “the postmodern condition”. But I can’t actually make it go away. It’s part of how I’m made. It’s a superpower. It’s a burden. It’s something I’m both afraid of and […]

    Pingback by An Incredibly Self-Indulgent Post on Archetypal Resonance « Bloggity Blog Blog Blog… — August 7, 2012 @ 1:29 am | Reply

RSS feed for comments on this post. TrackBack URI

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

Blog at

%d bloggers like this: